If you want something to be different, you need to do something different.

Beside my bed, I have these words as a daily reminder:

I have become a deliberate thinker.

I no longer create by default.

I think on purpose.

I speak on purpose.

I act on purpose.

These words are inspired by Abraham Hicks, who teaches about the Law of Attraction.

The principle is simple: Like attracts like.

We are what we think, and our lives are the manifestation of our thoughts and actions.

​Andy Stanley adds another layer of insight: While circumstances in life are ever-changing, YOU remain the constant in every scenario.

Your decisions and perspective dictate your actions, and how you act or speak ultimately determines your success. Instead of wondering how you arrived at your current situation, ask yourself:

What decisions did I make that led me here?

What role did I play in this outcome?

We face thousands of decisions each day—some small, some significant. Each decision becomes a thread that weaves the fabric of our lives. If decisions are made instinctively, sporadically, or unconsciously, it’s easy to find yourself far from your vision.

To stay aligned and deliberate, consider these steps:

1. Gain clarity on your vision

Be specific about what you want. Imagine the details, feel yourself in that future environment, and interact in your mind with the people who will support your success.

2. Hold yourself accountable

Every decision—large or small—will bring you closer to, or further from, your vision. Be mindful of alluring side paths, or tempting opportunities, that don't align with your focus. Without clarity, it’s easy to become lost.

The Art of Staying Focused

• Resist the urge to please. Saying “yes” when you mean “no” often leads to disappointment and misalignment.
• Create a moment of pause. Extend the time between a question and your response. “Buy time.” It’s natural to feel pressured to respond immediately, but breaking this habit allows space for reflection, more questions, or simply a night to “sleep on it.” Time fosters accountability.
• Believe you are worthy. Success begins with self-worth. Many opportunities are lost when we doubt our value. When you truly believe in your vision, others will, too.

Andy Stanley’s book, Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets is an excellent reminder of what’s possible when we own our choices, ask tough questions, and hold ourselves accountable.

Ultimately, the only thing standing between you and your preferred reality is your mindset.